5 love … is not provoked
- 1 Corinthians 13:5c
Another way this gets translated as “is not touchy or fretful or resentful” and “is not easily angered” and “Doesn’t fly off the handle”. Imagine relationships today if both parties worked at not provoking the other or not flying off the handle. I bet there would be a lot less divorces.
Many years ago, when my wife and I were having trouble in our marriage, we visited a couple for counseling. The husband asked me what was going on. I immediately took his invitation to attempt to convey to him just how mad and upset I was at my wife with the intent of winning him to my side of the fight. The problem was that he was not interested in my side or even taking sides. Instead he interrupted me and asked me about my walk with Jesus. I didn’t understand it until later, but his derailing my monologue was in fact preventing me from provoking my wife. My little speech would have done more to poke my wife in the ribs making her madder than bringing us closer to resolving and restoring our marriage.
In addition, we learned a little technique that has really helped and probably saved our marriage. The husband explained that he started to change-up his arguments because he was tired of being always wrong. So one day, in the middle of a fight, he looked at his wife and shouted, “You’re sorry!” There was a pause and then laughter. Once the heat of the argument was broken and he was no longer provoking his wife, they were able to work it out. My wife and I have adopted this technique and most of the time it has the same effect. And once we are not provoking each other or flying off the handle, then we can calmly move forward to a compromise or resolve the issue at hand. A simple and small technique that has had tremendous impact.
Love does not provoke or fly off of the handle. When we employ this facet of love no matter how hot and hard the argument or fight was, it will dispel the heat and allow for the spirit of God to flow back into your relationship and begin to heal and restore what was intended to be torn apart. The next time you find yourself in a fight, tell the other person that, “You’re sorry” and sit back and watch what happens.
Next week, we will continue our study on the Love of God.
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