4 love … is not boastful
- 1 Corinthians 13:4d
Some time ago, I decided that I would do my wife an amazing favor. I would clean the house. Oh yes, that is correct, I would take some time out of my computer time, that I said I was using to do my homework but in reality was using to play games, and clean the house. I thought that this amazing feat would not only earn me brownie points but also have her showering me with adulation. Never mind that my wife spent her whole day watching the kids, taking care of running them to doctor’s appointments as well as handled all the paperwork and meetings for government assistance and if that was not enough then go and work loading trucks for UPS at night. Of course, on top of all of this, she would clean the house. But not this day. I was not going to leave a mess for her and instead I cleaned the house.
It had taken away a good hour of my “Half-Life” time but I knew the praise and adoring fawning would be worth missing saving the planet from aliens from another dimension. I sat poised ready on the couch for when she was to arrive home. As I recall, she was a bit late that night and came in and was exhausted. I stood up and spread out my arms in a kind of “ta-da” fashion. Instead she came over and collapsed into me to get a hug. Well, that could be an obvious misunderstanding so after we finished hugging, I then did my ta-da motion. My wife seemed oblivious. I was a bit upset that she failed to notice my amazing deed so I decided to tell her that I cleaned the house. I stood ready to receive my praise. My wife looked around and paused for a moment with a look of sheer astonishment. I was getting giddy inside because I was thinking, “here it comes!” Well, it came alright. My wife instead of being happy laid into me. She was not happy at all. Which she had every right to be upset. I worked and she worked but I also expected so much of her in the home as well and never gave her a hand. When I suddenly did clean the house–once–it was not as big of an accomplishment to her as it was to me and only served to undermine how much I was taking her for granted and abusing our relationship.
Flash forward ten plus years. Not that long ago, when my wife was off somewhere (and before I broke my ankle), I cleaned the house. I usually try to help with the house as much as I can. However, often by the time I get home, my amazing wife has already cleaned the house. But this day she was out and I was home and cleaning. When she returned home, I did not mention that I cleaned at all. In fact, I went to her side and talked about whatever it was that she had done. At some point later that day, she mentioned, “The house looks great thanks!” I smiled. Not bragging and found that serving in love gave the response that I had looked for before and taught me a valuable lesson.
If you are truly doing something out of love for someone there is no need to brag about it. The deed will speak of the love by itself and then those whom you served will be truly blessed and will praise you and God in return.
Next week, we will continue our study on the Love of God.
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